I struggle with this. Have I moved on or am I only repressing it all?
As I mentioned here
I am a master in repressing my feelings. Earlier, I often found myself
very angry and/or frustrated, without actually having a obvious reason
for it. I read a lot about how our mind tends to work, and suddenly I
was able to connect these negative reactions to certain situations or
The connections were so obvious that I am
almost embarrassed. Also, the situations causing this repression were
situations that naturally would (and should) affect me, so nothing wrong
with having these emotions. The situations affecting me could be all
from very trivial things to a more profound problem.
this discovery, I am constantly aware of this. I recognize my reactions
and I can almost immediately connect them to the source, and it reduces
my anger and/or frustration.
This is really healthy and good progress for me.
when do you know when you have moved on from a problem or situation
instead of actually repressing it? I fear that I am still going back,
exploring the negative feelings, just because I'm scared that I am
repressing. Am I making sense? What I try to say is that sometimes I go
back to the negative feelings when it is actually all unnecessary. I
have moved on, I shouldn't go back. But I still do. Either consciously
When is it healthy to go back and work more on the feelings? When is it time to just move on?
I just need time. Maybe I need to work even more on being aware of how
my brain is working. I have had a tendency to focus on negative things,
and I think it is often hard for me to let go. Letting go of certain
feelings and situations, even though negative, often means letting go of
the person behind that. Someone who you might have loved for a very